With the high profile suicides recently, I want to share the following.

Effective communication skills are often presumed because we communicate with others daily.  However, too often: Implied meanings are not perceived, sarcastic comments are received as hurtful, and avoidance of a discussion results in the other party being unaware an issue exists.

C. S. Lewis noted, "The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say my tooth is aching than to say my heart is broken."

Suicide rates rose steadily in nearly every state from 1999 to 2016, increasing 25 percent nationally, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported on Thursday. In 2016, there were more than twice as many suicides as homicides.

As also noted by the CDC, there are a number of overlapping factors that contribute to the reasons why people take their own lives.  Some of these include:

  • Relationship problems (42%)
  • Crisis (29%)
  • Job / Financial problems (16%)

Feeling personally empowered to speak up and advocate for oneself is a human right that often goes untrained.  Constructive behavior skills can be a tool to help someone speak a concern early and engage others in a way that helps them be heard and to hear others.  This isn't a process that comes naturally to most people.

Relationships issues, problems at work and crises can be resolved.  

If you find yourself in situations with others where you feel high anxiety, anger, the need to be sarcastic, or consistently speak ill of others, these are signs that the communication techniques being used are not effective.  Contact me so we can talk about ways I can help:

And, if you or someone you know is struggling with suicide, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TALK).