Sometimes when issues are complicated, it is quicker and easier to react and justify our actions than to admit there may be errors and uncertainty. To admit that we are fearful, shocked. To admit that we don’t know what the solution is. To admit that we want a particular outcome for a particular reason. But the admittance of these things is what connect us to each other. These are the very things that give us commonality to the person we disagree with.
And finding common ground is where to begin to work together.