One of the purposes of family is connection... to see each other, to be seen; to know each other, to be known. 

Sometimes this purpose gets hijacked and the family dynamic becomes tense and difficult. Maybe even dysfunctional.  Members of the family may not feel safe, seen, known, respected, or loved. 

As we embark upon the holiday season and, for many, more time with family.  If you are someone who struggles spending time with family, try observing your family dynamic for clues about how your family may asking for connection.  The observations could help you know your family from a different perspective.

Hint: Sometimes the signals people give when they are reaching for connection are unhealthy and often the person is unaware of how they come across.